Your post provides a juxtaposition to a recent post on one of our local news sites regarding the rest state of peoples faces here. I have a friend in Paignton.uk who has such a face which looks quite sad at rest but lights up like a christmas tree when she smiles. I was dumb enough to comment on it at one point and she was a little hurt at my comments, which woke me up to such issues.
This just made me realize how much I've internalized that particular point. The "default" expression on my face has sometimes even been taken for angry or threatening, but I'm told I have a great smile.
The bit I just realized is that I've been so annoyed at the "turn that frown upside down"-type comments that, when I've run across other people with negative-seeming default expressions, it's never even occurred to me to mention it directly, because it bugs me so much when people do that to me. But if it is someone with a nice smile, I will try to do things to get that smile, even though I'd never say in as many words that that was what I was doing.
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Date: 2012-03-14 11:04 pm (UTC)From:This just made me realize how much I've internalized that particular point. The "default" expression on my face has sometimes even been taken for angry or threatening, but I'm told I have a great smile.
The bit I just realized is that I've been so annoyed at the "turn that frown upside down"-type comments that, when I've run across other people with negative-seeming default expressions, it's never even occurred to me to mention it directly, because it bugs me so much when people do that to me. But if it is someone with a nice smile, I will try to do things to get that smile, even though I'd never say in as many words that that was what I was doing.