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Sometimes I wish people would just grow up.
Then I remember that I have frequently been feeling the same way about politicians, and that the worst bullying I have ever endured was from people over fifty. So I'm not sure what I'm actually wishing for -- perhaps that people would grow up into the kind of grown-ups I thought all grown-ups were when I was five?
Something like that, anyway.
(btw, this wasn't sparked by anything personal to me -- just one more instance of being a shocked bystander).
Then I remember that I have frequently been feeling the same way about politicians, and that the worst bullying I have ever endured was from people over fifty. So I'm not sure what I'm actually wishing for -- perhaps that people would grow up into the kind of grown-ups I thought all grown-ups were when I was five?
Something like that, anyway.
(btw, this wasn't sparked by anything personal to me -- just one more instance of being a shocked bystander).
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Date: 2011-09-29 06:30 pm (UTC)From:This so much. One of the things I realized when I made that transition to adulthood is that you never truly ever "grow up." Some people will mature more than others, but there are times when that middle/high school part of you comes out in the worst ways. It's always there. It's just as you get older you learn to check it and not let it get the best of you.
I've been in enough fandoms to see this type of thing happen over and over again. It's kind of depressing, but not surprising. I'm kind of a masochist and I'm resisting the urge to go over to that comm, because I know I'll regret it.
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Date: 2011-09-29 07:14 pm (UTC)From:I can't say I'm surprised that once someone started name-bashing more people piled on. I AM surprised and disgusted by whoever thought it was a good idea to start the comm in the first place. People on the net need more anonymity and invitations to rant? Really?
I'm as guilty of arguing on the internet as anyone -- it'd be idiotic to deny it. I'm certain there are times when in the heat of argument I've stepped over a line. But this is stepping over a whole other line entirely. I remember being pretty disgusted with the arguments/actions of one of the people called out on the anonmeme, but really -- engage during the argument or let it go.
Once again I'm left trying to remind myself that constructive, assertive communication is a learned skill, and one none of us are great at %100 of the time. There IS actually room between 'tone trolling' and 'ad hominem.'