Stress levels: skyrocketing

[shadesofmauve]

Y'know that renter who was supposed to move in Saturday, bringing with her my longed-for financial security?

She didn't show up.

She didn't show up today, either.

I've sent her a text message and called once, with no response.

She left a hundred dollar deposit and a small amount of reasonably nice stuff.

The university she's supposedly attending starts classes tomorrow.

What the flying fuck?

Comments

[baxaronn.livejournal.com]

That really sucks. D:

Flaky people are the worst surprises ever.

[shadesofmauve]

Aaand there was no real indication of flakiness. Or rather, she did have to reschedule our original meeting, but she kept me informed the whole time and I knew what was going on -- which for me falls under 'life happens' (it doesn't usually become 'flakiness' until it happens frequently or the person doesn't communicate).

If she doesn't show I suppose I keep the deposit and get rid of the stuff, but not knowing is really weirding me out. I'm twitchy!

[opalgirl28.livejournal.com]

That is incredibly strange.

Uh, if she doesn't show, double-check how long you have to hold the room/deposit before for her (esp. if there are laws around that).

[shadesofmauve]

I will -- though on the deposit front, I can't return it to her; I've exhausted my means of tracking her down (her last name is pretty common).

[sinvraal.livejournal.com]

I'm especially sympathetic at the moment as I'm dealing with financial issues to do with someone else too.

Hell truly is other people sometimes.

[shadesofmauve]

I'm slewing wildly between "What if something tragic happened to her, and she didn't flake out at all?" and "How the hell am I supposed to rent my room now, since I held it for her through the prime pre school-season renting time, shit, I need her money." And of course there's the added "ARGH I DON'T KNOW" which really gets me. Whether it affects my course of action or not, I really, really want to know wtf is going on!

[criada.livejournal.com]

Possibly you should file a missing person report?

[shadesofmauve]

Wondering about that, honestly! I mean, I have no way of knowing if she flaked out, or if she was in a car crash, or... she didn't seem like the type to go incommunicado; she did have to reschedule our first appointment, but she kept me up-to-date on everything.

Can you DO the missing person thing when you hardly know the person, though?

[criada.livejournal.com]

It can't hurt. I found this definition of a missing person case over at the Olympia PD web site: Unaccounted absence – the condition in which an adult has failed to appear for one or more obligations (work, appointments, meals, etc.) and is not present in other locations where they logically would be, given normal routines.
Call the police department's non-emergency number and see if they can do anything. If she's registered for school, then undoubtedly the university will have further info on previous addresses and emergency contacts.

[shadesofmauve]

Oh, that's a really good idea. Thank you! I hadn't thought of it, but of course the cops could ask the school for other contacts -- and regardless of whether she's registered this year, she WAS a student there last year, so they'll have them.

[fenmere.livejournal.com]

The thing about missing person reports is that they are probably treated like collected evidence. They'll compare it to other files and file it for future reference if they have no cause to go looking immediately. So whether they seem to take you seriously or not, you'll be giving them a handy tool to be better aware of whether or not anything's happened to her.

But, if all you've got for identification is her description, first name and last name, they probably can't do much more than you have already done in terms of tracking her down at this stage.

Oh, wait, but they might have the authority to further identify her by her phone number!

[shadesofmauve]

Gave it a try, but as I'm not family or someone who's used to her routine, it's not something they can do anything about. I'm glad I talked to them for my own peace of mind, though -- at least I don't have to worry that there was something else *I* should have done.

[westrider.livejournal.com]

Grrr. I've been getting really sick of flakiness and non-returning of contact attempts over the last few months myself. Something going around :P

[shadesofmauve]

I don't know if she flaked or something dire happened to her. :(

[westrider.livejournal.com]

OK, sorry, I skipped a step there. My problem with flakiness has always been that, even when I know someone's a flake, I can't write it off as such. I get worried if something's gone horribly wrong every time, and it's really been stressing me the fuck out over the last few months.

[shadesofmauve]

Okay, in that case it's EXACTLY what's driving me insane!

[tersa.livejournal.com]

...is she still AWOL? Yikes. That is freaky.

[evilsherbear.livejournal.com]

Oh that is not good. All I can do is offer some well wishes your way, and hope that the person is just a flake rather than something seriously bad happened to them.